Undermining your own success

Years ago, I was seeking help from a psychologist for issues around depression. I had been feeling like despite all my efforts, my goals and dreams were not being realized as I saw fit. After listening to me go on for some time, she asked me flatly, “Is it possible that you’re undermining your own success?”

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Pain and comfort are two sides of the same coin. Especially when it comes to food.

Last year, I started excavating my diet, wanting to cut out things I knew weren’t good for me. For two months I eliminated all sweeteners and baked goods. It was a revelation. I lost 10 pounds, felt great, and started to understand how much these foods were only giving me comfort, not nutrition. Gladly after the initial two months, I was able to reintegrate a very limited amount of sweets in a healthy and balanced way.

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Pattern Recognition: How to Stop the Destructive Patterns in Your Life by Taking Ownership

Why is it always so easy to identify destructive patterns in other people’s lives, but when it comes to recognizing our own, it’s just not that obvious.

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4 radical truths about life

I am one of those people who has kept every diary and journal I’ve ever had. I got my first one when I was 8. It was pink and had a little lock and key. Now they’ve graduated to Moleskins and whatever notebook I can find to fill with copious amounts of psycho-babble and ramblings. Recently, I decided to put them all in one stack and go through them to find any lasting gems. Here are the results:

1 – Our lives have themes. Turns out, I’m dealing with the similar struggles I had when I was 16! Of course they’re not the same people, or even the same issues, but in a very general way, my “problems” seem to focus around being heard, being recognized, and finding my voice in the world. I found it fascinating to see this theme repeated over and over again, through the ages, and even in positive situations. It made me wonder if this is simply human nature – our entire lives spin around one theme which is a central tenet to our life’s purpose.

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One Way to Get through the Day When You Haven’t Slept in Weeks

Sleep was never elusive when I was younger. I could sleep anytime, anywhere. I never pulled all-nighters in university because I honestly couldn’t stay awake all night. But now, that has all changed.

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How I recovered from burnout using this new technique

Dealing with burnout

A few years ago I suffered a severe case of career burnout. I forced myself to take a break to sort through the emotional mess I was in. I meditated and journaled extensively to work through my feelings. One thing I noticed was my thoughts were filled with extremes. I loved what I did, but I hated the business that went along with it. I was terribly envious of other peoples’ success but I also loved being part of that same community. Love, hate, love, hate. It was an endless mess of intertwined emotions. I was so overcome, I could hardly tell where I stood on anything, let alone shift these feelings into more positive territory.

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How to Work Around Writer’s Block

I have an intimate relationship with writer’s block, as likely do most writers. Blessedly, it tends to attach itself to my right brain when there is no formal writing assignment at hand. Only when I am meant to follow my own path, to create as I see fit, does writer’s block erect its roadblocks.

My writer’s block sees to it that the creative process becomes as painful and laborious as possible. “Why should writing be easy?” it whispers in my ear, as I struggle to untangle the knot of ideas that lodge themselves in the hollows that remain uncontaminated by its Sapphic voice.

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Photo by Ed Yourdon

And yet, if I can simply bring myself to extract one thought, one idea, and to pursue it with focus, then I can break free of its spell and produce something, anything, to keep the blank page at bay. And with that small success in mind, I offer a few tips for working around writer’s block.

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